A New Age of Social Interaction
MySpace, Facebook, YouTube…I can’t even keep all these web-networking sites straight. I have to admit, I did sign up on MySpace, but only because my job required me to do some “research” on whether there are any marketing opportunities available. Sick and wrong if you ask me. That aside, I have been pondering all the news out there these days on how these things can mess with a person’s life…Back in the day, it used to be about bloggers getting fired for the content on their sites. More recently, its people’s profile on a dating site that can make or break them. Even more recently, it’s stories about people not getting hired for jobs because potential employers search sites for negative tid-bits on their lives.
The latest and greatest of interactive impositions is something that my sister and a few of my friends have enlightened me about. Who knew that the online profile/page of yourself and your friends can tell you things that no one in the traditional sense of knowing one another should ever know…especially when it comes to dating.
What am I talking about pray-tell? Well…for example, my sister recently broke things off with her boyfriend. She would peruse his facebook page only to see "the other woman" posting comments on his wall saying things like…"last night was great, baby." All these posts enlightened her to the fact that perhaps it was herself who was the other woman. Another example would be how a gal-pal of mine went on her man-of-six-month’s MySpace page only to see he was still listed as “single.” She even asked him about it, and it took him another two months to flip it to “in a relationship.”
Let’s ponder this online psychology for a second. These are all sentiments of dating that 10 years ago, none of us would have had any clue about. The only way to figure out if your significant other was cheating/aloof/etc. would be to talk about it, or find out inadvertently. Now, we can see it displayed to the world on the internet.
In our time of dating, we already live in a world of a million mixed messages. Just think about what this new age of technology is sending our way: a whole new bag of mixed messages that are based on assumptions and jealousy mongering. It’s depressing.
Call me old fashioned, but I’d rather omit participation in all said social networking sites and trade up for a decent phone conversation or time spent AWAY from the computer.
posted by Lisa @ 5:22 PM
3 Comments:
ahhhh, the courtship process pre-internet. Sigh ~ it must have been great.
MySpace is a relationship killer. First people used to go to online dating profiles to see when their latest date last logged on.Now you can literally see exactly who they're talking to, who's flirting with them, etc. It's a nightmare.
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You're right. It's depression. But I still google. Everyone.
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